Hurry up and wait.
Milestones that allow us more, or allow us to believe there is more, and we seemingly and willingly give up precious days and precious moments to focus on, well yet another moment. But when you reach a certain age, like I have, you learn to savor each day, each lesson, and sometimes each breath. And you realize that hurrying up to reach certain markers shouldn’t be the goal, it is the ‘each and every day’ getting to that point, or whatever point, that should be the goal.
We have been given a narrative about our own lives, our precious lives, by our parents, our relatives, or neighbors, and or friends. We learn from an early age what our life story is about through their eyes. It’s not always a bad thing, but it’s not always a good thing either. And we learn to hurry up and wait.
Finish up your school year so you can enjoy summer break.
Endure the long winter so you can plant your spring garden.
Finish college and get a great job.
And we learn to create this same narrative for our puppies and dogs. Hurry up and wait.
Hurry up with teething.
Hurry up with maturing.
Hurry up with learning.
Hurry up so we can compete.
Hurry, hurry, hurry.
And all the moments in between, the ‘learning between the lines’ moments, are the ones that really make us who we are, and give us the moments we need in order to learn more about us. Those are the moments that allow us to write our own stories, about our own lives. For us and our dogs.
When you step out with your puppy or dog, see them as another living being, not just a training partner. Each moment together, you learn, you share, you stumble a bit, but it is an exchange. What has been written, or expected, for you and your dog is not the important part, and you might not want to focus on that stuff. Its what you learn when you get your hands dirty, when you are nose to nose with your dog and exchanging breaths, when you feel a twinkling of understanding between the two of you. It’s all of those little learning moments, that aren’t obvious at all, that teach and connect us to our dog.
Not every day is the same. Not everything we did the day before will stick today. And sometimes we might feel like we are spinning our wheels and working on the same things all of the time with our dog. That is totally okay. Why not? What is the hurry, seriously, what is the hurry? Be honest about that. Rewrite you and your dogs story so it makes sense for the two of you.
It is your relationship together, your short time together that matters. Learn between the lines.
I was once told that Ocean had to listen, not be afraid, be obedient, be perfect, walk on a loose leash, and have no opinions. That was of course if I wanted a competition dog. Well I looked at my little white puppy and said, fuck it, we are writing our own story, and doing what is going to work for you and me.
Even if it means dancing in the rain and mud.