when is a rescue no longer a rescue?

Marketing is a powerful tool.

A good marketing plan can shape how we feel, how we act, how we move, how we eat, what we eat, where we live, what we think, and so on. Sit back and think for a moment, what are you currently doing in your life that has not been shaped by marketing on some level? hmmm

During the past decade, one of the most powerful marketing trends in the United States has been focused on adopting pets from Rescues and Shelters. Ethically, morally, socially, and neighborly, it has been marketed as not only the cool thing to do, but the responsible thing to do. This in and of itself is great, animals in need of forever homes garnering attention in every corner of America. A spot light on those animals that for whatever reason need a better, and more suitable home than the one they started with. And because this marketing trend surpasses the animal world, is backed by movie stars, politicians, and the uber wealthy, it is very successful! Yay for the animals!

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Some dogs that have come from shelters and rescues have made the headlines over the years; Agility Champions, Therapy Dogs, Service Dogs, Canines for Conservation, and cherished family pets that turn out to have a lot of talent. These stories bring another layer to this marketing trend. Sometimes you can find that diamond in the rough, and how cool is that.

But not all are remarkable, or pretty, or talented. Some are simple, some with lack luster looks, some have seen evil, some have experienced dangerous situations, many have lived in dysfunction, some are timid, some are just simply not the right fit for the humans that chose them. And there are plenty more reasons why these dogs end up in transition with rescues and shelters. And believe it or not, this is great for marketing too. There are a plethora of people with very deep and kind hearts who are looking for a dog to cherish. They want to help the under dog. Provide a safe place, give them hope, experience happiness, and let them fly.

Just as every dog in transition has their own story, every person that wants a dog has their own reasons.

But here is my question, or statement, or opinion, or observation. I’m not sure what it is because depending on the day it seems to take on a new life form.

This powerful marketing trend to adopt is good and right on all levels, I support that. But this same marketing trend has kept these dogs carrying around their baggage from their past life for way too long. Marketing has shaped us to continue to use the terms ‘my rescue’, ‘he/she’s a rescue’, ‘it’s a rescue’, ‘pound puppy’, or ‘second hand mutt’. But why? Once you adopt your dog aren’t they now yours? Shouldn’t we be using the term ‘MY DOG’. Let them leave their past life behind and move on, a fresh start, re framing how the world works in a better way, hopefully.

There seems to be some moral or ethical Brownie Badge when you refer to your dog as ‘my rescue’. In that one word phrase you have let, whoever you are talking too, know that you have done a good thing out of the kindness of your heart. I have never seen the same emotional response in a conversation by just saying ‘this is my dog’. Ta Da, MY DOG!

Sometimes marketing plans that work so well on us humans, and shape our behavior, can back fire on our dogs. Many times, dogs that are adopted and called ‘a rescue’ are thought to be less intelligent by some, less trainable, less social, less of everything. ‘Rescue’ can be a powerful word picture for some people. Odd, anti social, over the top behaviors are sometimes tolerated, because, well you know, it’s a ‘Rescue’. What?

When a person commits to the words, ‘my dog’, they cannot blame or excuse their human behavior or their dogs behavior on the past. It is pretty defining, and requires accountability in my opinion, or rather my world. My dog, my responsibility, my companion, my joy, my life, my world. It is full commitment, committing to another living being, fully and totally without any verbal barrier or excuses, or dismissals because of their previous experiences.

Whether you refer to yourself as a guardian or an owner, do it fully, not half way. Rescue a dog, adopt a dog, but then call them yours. My Dog.

After all, I don’t believe they can be re rescued every single day for the rest of their lives in the same home with the same person. How freaking exhausting would that be!

Nancy, who is currently surrounded by four sleeping dogs, who are all My Dogs.

it’s the 99% of the time that kindness counts

When we first moved into our Montana neighborhood, on a cul de sac, I was so excited. Families, children, dogs, close to schools, neighbors to chat with at the mail box, all of the good stuff.

You see, we moved to Montana from Wyoming. You might say, yeah, big deal, it’s pretty much the same. Oh no it’s not. Wyoming is a bit rough around the edges and a bit lawless. We were 75 miles from an interstate, and had lots of sage brush in pretty much every direction.

Everything there is extreme. The summers are roasting hot, the winters are freaking cold and frozen, the wind lifts roofs, and the perfect days are just so perfect that it’s hard for the mind to comprehend. But our neighbors were good people, to the bone good. They may not have been chatty, or super social, but they were kind and hard working. If I ever needed help, real help, they were there for me every time, and visa versa. We all looked out for each other, and not in a nosy neighborhood way. There was a sincere kindness, and realness to our life there, rough but very real.

When we arrived on our cul de sac, there were 19 children and 13 dogs. I thought that for sure this was going to be it! We were told that the dogs could be off leash and the children could play safely, everyone looked out for everyone else. Wow! Happy Valley.

Well it was a nightmare with dogs off leash everywhere, so we built a fence, planted a hedge, and built a garden. So did a few of the other homes. Things became a bit more peaceful and a bit kinder. Not so many neighborly conflicts. Our dogs were happier, and I was happier having them safe from some of the other dogs in the neighborhood.

Then we found that kindness was subjective. We were only one of two homes on our circle that didn’t go to the same church. Kindness was reserved for church friends, cold shoulders for the rest. This was actually OK with me, I was learning that things weren’t very ‘real’ after all, so doing my own thing was not a loss really. I had my kids, dogs and garden, life was good.

But this is also when the ‘sand box’ wars started. That oh so precious moment when a parents point of view slips out of a four year olds mouth, and you learn that kindness is really masked contempt and judgement. These little people spewing their parents hatred at my children because they didn’t go to the same church.

At one point I was told that ‘cleanliness was next to godliness’ by one of these charming four year olds. She didn’t even know what it meant, other than she was pointing to my laundry on the couch. So I told her to fold it if it bothered her so much. Funny, she never came down again.

Then years went by, everyone kind of fell into their own groove, and only minor neighborhood conflicts. There have been births, deaths, marriages, and two new families. Our dogs and children live a good life, my garden has continued to grow.

And it only took one trigger, just one the other night, to bring me back to that feeling I had when we first moved here.

We have four dogs, two are seniors. They are never off leash in our neighborhood, and we respect others properties. We still have to look out our driveway each time we take them for a walk to make sure our neighbors dogs aren’t cruising around.

Our one neighbor four houses down stood in the middle of the street and was throwing a tennis ball for his dog, right at our home and onto our property. You see we are the home at the back of the circle, it was a direct throw. So his dog came running down the street and right at our home. You can imagine four herding dogs watching another dog charge their home, it didn’t go well.

I went outside and started walking into the street and put my arms up in that universal questioning gesture. Any person from anyplace in the world, except my neighbor apparently, understands this gesture, everyone! He looked right at me, and thru the ball in my direction, and his dog came running at me to get to the ball. Again my dogs were going nuts watching this all go down. His action was intentional, disrespectful, and adolescent, and he is a grown man, my senior.

We exchanged words.

Everyday for the past four days his dog has been cruising around the neighborhood, he has been walking his dog off leash, and throwing the ball in the street, oh but only half way down now. He is actually making a concerted effort to be disrespectful and unkind. And he continues.

I know that some of the kids in our neighborhood read my blog. Thank you, I appreciate you checking in, truly.

So here are my thoughts.

It is important for every family to be kind and loving to their children and animals. It is also important to be respectful and kind to your neighbors. This doesn’t mean you need to be buddy buddy, but rather to honor their existence on this planet and be kind, be real. Going to church and learning about kindness is not necessarily ‘living’ that same kindness.

When you are out in the world, and amongst people and animals of all walks of life, this is truly where kindness counts the most, this is the 99% part of your life, the part that truly counts. Doing it, not just talking about it.

My friend has talked about home re model ideas like moats, turrets, and draw bridges. I think I might take him up on his offer sometime soon!

Be kind, be respectful, and most of all be real … Nancy

Roger Abrantes is in my kitchen

I’m a Mom, a business woman, a dog trainer, a gardener, and a wife. There might be a few other things that I am, be these are the relevant ones, and they keep me plenty busy.

This past week I was doing the final preparations for a seminar that I was hosting. The advertising and marketing end of this event had been finished months earlier. I was now just making sure that everyone had the hotel rooms they wanted, the menu and numbers finalized, gift bags stuffed, wine and tapas gathering set to go, pool tables reserved for ‘after after hours’, film crew on the road, and so forth. I love, I mean love, hosting events. It’s simply my thing.

Because I had so much going on, so many details, my kids activities, my dogs work, and my business, I kind of never got into the cool emotional space of what was about to happen over the weekend.

And then I found myself in that very surreal moment in my kitchen, heating up chili, putting chips in a bowl, and filling a water glass for Roger Abrantes. I stopped in mid stream and just stared at him, for a very long second, most likely way longer than that, but not enough to be creepy I hope. It was that moment, that crazy moment when life hits you smack in the face. Holy crap, Roger Abrantes is in my kitchen.

You see, I went from Ian Dunbars book How to Teach a New Dog Old Tricks, right into Abrantes book, The Evolution of Canine Social Behavior in 2005. Apparently that’s how my brain works, tricks and evolutionary behavior go hand in hand. ;-) The following year I had seen Abrantes at a conference in Portland Oregon. I liked him from the moment he started to speak. It doesn’t hurt that he has a great accent that makes listening easy, but he also made difficult material digestible. That, in my opinion, is a gift. I knew that some day I would bring him to Montana, but I just didn’t know when. He was officially on my list though.

Over the past seven years or so, I have read most of everything he has published, in English of course, and followed his blog. I like what he has to say, it’s really that simple. This past year I felt it was time, Montana was ready for Roger! So I e-mailed him, he e-mailed back, I gave him a time frame, he gave me his, I said great, he said yes! WOOP! It was really that easy, that straight forward, and that perfect on every level.

The seminar filled beyond my projections and quite early. This is always an awesome feeling, and a really good sign. He had a topic lined out for our group that sounded great, he was going to be in the USA touring for a couple of weeks before hand, so flying into Bozeman wouldn’t be as big of an ordeal as coming from over seas. I didn’t have to panic the night before about international flights and all of the ‘hoo haw’ that can come along with them.

I worked a full morning, had appointments out on ranches, worked my dogs, went to my children’s drum ensemble, and whipped up the worlds best bison chili before heading out to the airport.

And then there he was. Telling me about himself, his travels so far on this tour, all the while eating my food. He stood in my kitchen like he had been there 100 times, that lightness of being, that easiness, that only world travelers share. Maybe I did stare past the point of comfort, just a bit. Roger Abrantes is in my kitchen!

We went over some of the weekends details, schedules, ate some more, and talked about changing the seminar topic. Roger wanted to do something special for our Montana gathering, something he had never done before. As the host this was both a potential nightmare, and super exciting. Advertising one event and presenting another is a gamble at best. Sometimes it’s a silky transition, and other times a washboard country road with nails and tacks everywhere! My feelings were, if this brilliant mind had an idea, we should go with it, I would handle the rest. Besides, Roger Abrantes is in my kitchen!

And then my children came home from school. If there was ever a moment of kindred spirits, this was it. Piper, Renn, and Roger started talking about everything and nothing, they were all so easy with each other, and so perfect. I did the dishes while they chatted away, it was perfect. This was going to be a good weekend!

Like any host, you feel the need to arrange activities for your guest, even if they tell you they need to work. There is an obligation to entertain, well those are my feelings anyway.  Dinners, a trip to Yellowstone, pool, etc. We set up bits and pieces of Montana for him to experience. Mother Nature had other ideas, snow, wind, rain, and just a wee bit of sun. It was Montana beautiful by any standard, but the Montana blue bird sky is the jewel, and made just a guest appearance for a few minutes.

Our conference room started to fill on Saturday morning. Some of the most talented trainers from Montana, Colorado, and beyond started to fill the room. It was a gathering to be sure. Smiles, hugs, and greetings from friends I haven’t seen in a very long time. New faces and people to get to know better. Relaxed, comfortable, and ready to rock!

Roger started speaking and off we went. He set the pace for the weekend, and then introduced his new seminar just for us! “The 20 Principles All Animal Trainers Should Know”. This turned out to be so perfect on every level. We had family pet owners, professors, shelter staff, professional trainers, and a few horse trainers there. This met everyone’s needs, and encouraged better training for stronger results, using scientific principles.

Gaining new knowledge, refreshing some things I may have put on the back burner, and trying to wrap my head around new concepts are all well and good. But for me, I learn best with someone who can also impart life experiences, wisdom of the ages, sage. For me this is what makes it so real.

The two day seminar went by too quickly, as is the norm. It was awesome, no glitches to speak of, and as the host, this is always a good thing.

While Piper is teenager busy, and didn’t get to spend too much time with us outside of the conference, Renn by far made up for it. It would suffice to say that Renn has a mentor of sorts, in pool, food, and travels. And what a cool mentor to have! Roger mentioned that because he liked my kids so much, I was OK. But for me it is the other way around. Anyone so kind and honest with my kids, and who my kids like hanging out with, is OK with me. So the feelings are mutual.

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I have lots of photos from this weekend, but this one makes me the happiest, and probably the only one you will see. Everything good!

Next time Roger is standing in my kitchen, I hope to have better control over my staring, hopefully it won’t be too surreal next time, but more like a world traveling friend coming to Montana to teach. OK, I will let you know how the staring goes next time.

Here is to learning, laughter, and kindness … may we all have more of it!

Nancy

Deworming… huh hmmmm, for people

Tis the season!

“the worms crawl in the worms crawl out the worms play pinochle on your snout…” does anyone remember this ditty or did I just date myself?

Talking about worms or intestinal parasites is actually a pretty common conversation amongst dog owners. We talk about what our animals eat, how it comes out (literally) and what it looks like… oh wait, is that a worm in there?

Then off to the veterinary we go. It is suggested that we deworm our dogs at least twice a year, more if there is visual site of worms in the stool. Most pet owners that I know are pretty faithful to this schedule, kind of like spring and fall ‘house cleaning’.

But hold on!

What about you, the owner that lives, eats, and sleeps with your dog… and kisses your dog? Have you been taking care of yourself? Do you have worms? Oh the horror…

If you live with, work with, or are around animals on a daily basis, deworming yourself once to twice a year is highly recommended. The Amish caught on to this a long time ago, and some farm and ranch children are raised with daily homemade tinctures, a lot like liquid cloves (sans sugar…blah!). A spoonful a day keeps the worms away.

My friends and fellow world travelers like to refer to it as ‘parasite cleansing’, it just sounds nicer.

There are a few options out there. I tend to stay with the least abrasive and least toxic versions. You want to consult with your health care practitioner to see what they feel would be safe for you. Take into consideration that herbs are drugs, and they are powerful, so always know what you are putting into your body. Most Co-ops, health food stores or nutrition centers carry these products.Talk to your Doctor about prescription pharmaceuticals.

Both of these parasite cleansing products are available at health food stores in Bozeman.

Old Amish De-wormer
Parastroy 

Here’s to your health and a worm free body!
Nancy
originally posted March 2011

balls of a different sort…

treibball treibball treibball … Our World Treibball Winter League finishes it’s last Match, today, March 23rd! What an awesome inaugural season, awesome, awesome, and totally awesome! Players from three countries; USA, Canada, and Australia!

I have been buying balls, pumping them up, selling them, storing them, having my dogs push them, and watching other dogs push them, nearly every day since the beginning of November. It’s been an awesome journey, more leagues to come and titling events to be sure! And hopefully everyone will be seeing our World Pusher shirts pop up around the globe! We’ve been sporting them as often as possible.

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Today however, my husband and I put on our World Pusher shirts and decided to play with balls of a different sort, bowling balls! Bowling for the Tiny Tails Rescue Fundraiser to be exact. Diana does an amazing job recusing, fostering, and finding homes for mostly small dogs, but really any dog that needs to find love and a new place to live.

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I thought, why not, it’s for a good cause, it would be fun to bowl a bit, visit, meet new people, and bid on some stuff in the silent auction. Happy Saturday! Both of us grew up bowling, but literally have not touched a bowling ball in 16 years, today would be a nice casual way to ‘play’ again.

NOT!

We showed up to a packed house! Everyone had their own bowling bags with multiple balls, shoes, and all of the necessary gear for serious league players. I never got the 411 that the Montana Senior Traveling Bowling League dominates this fundraiser, and has for over five years. They come to have fun, but also to BOWL! All of the major cities in Montana were represented today.

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We were put on a team with some very cool, and very serious players. Strike after strike after strike. Mel, at 89 years of age, ended his first game with a 207. Clapping, cheering, and some serious bowling! I don’t think I have been around a group this collectively happy, and at the same time so uber serious.

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So Spore bought me a Bloody Mary. Good husband. Good Bloody Mary, cheers!

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They set a rigorous pace, in fact we were three frames ahead of any of the other lanes. We were jammin’ right along, there was no goofing off with this crew. My first game was dusting off the cob webs, I was just glad I never dropped the ball. It felt good to be out there again. All my team mates scored near 200, all amazing bowlers. They were congratulatory, but I knew they were treating me like the rookie, because really I was.  But having your ass patted by a octogenarian while he tells you, ‘good game’ kind of seals the deal  ;-)

After my turn I would go bid on some of the silent auction stuff, or buy some raffle tickets. I’m like a kid in a candy store with silent auctions, I bid on things I don’t necessarily want or need, because for me it is just that fun!

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Spore was loving it, the atmosphere, the game, the cookies. These were his people! And the ladies loved him.

Then it all kicked in, Spore and I started with with similar first game scores, 126 & 127. The second game I scored a 157, while he schooled me with a 207. The final game, Spore had a 189, and I finished with three strikes and a 210. Rookie my ass! woop!

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Spore even agrees, we couldn’t have had better folks to spend our day with, he is still smiling. It was like a dose of happiness we weren’t even expecting.

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Thanks to Diana for making a fundraiser a FUNraiser! I hope Tiny Tails made a bunch of money. We had a blast and hope we can do it every year. We may need to buy our own shoes or balls, or something, just to have a bit more ‘street cred’ like our team mates. And by the way, we want the same team mates!

Nancy

this group will inspire!

This winter I had a brilliant idea, I mean brilliant x 10!

I was going to schedule an event at our Gym, and call it ‘The Festival of Possibilities’. We have a talented and experienced group of positive based trainers across the state. My plan was to bring them all together over a weekend, and have mini workshops, sampler classes, private sessions, consultations, etc, and make it available to the general public. A Festival to; enlighten, teach, explore new ideas, try a new service, listen, participate, and maybe investigate alternative health options. Possibilities always leave the door open!

I still have this on the back burner, I still want this to happen, but here is the glitch I ran into. Because we are all trainers, and not only trainers, but also business owners, and dog sport competitors, it was impossible to find a single weekend where we could all get together!

But what did happen, is it gave me pause to really think about this group of individuals that are not only colleagues, but have become my trusted friends over the years. And truthfully to stand in awe at the collective awesomeness that is right here in Montana.

When I started my business  Paws & People, 10 years ago, there were training clubs, but not many individually owned training businesses, and even fewer that were dedicated to education and positive based training. Over the years I have been asked to give workshops and private consultations across the state, and have had the opportunity to work with these individuals and watch their businesses grow. I have been humbled by their trust in me. And honestly, it has made our friendships over the years that much more special!

You see, in the dog world, even in the positive based dog world, not all trainers or business owners are savory characters. Disrespect towards other trainers, malice intent, shotty cheap business practices, pirating other trainers material, and vindictive behavior,  run deep. These people never get a second chance to make a first impression with other trainers, and tend not to last very long. And for a good reason in my opinion. Over the years I have worked with two individuals like this, and it still knocks the wind out of me to see adults behave so poorly. But, it’s also a great reminder for me, why I do what I do, and why I value other trainers that hold themselves to a much higher standard.

What sets my colleagues, and their businesses apart from the rest is a combination of things.

  1. Functioning adults, that have good social skills, are honest, and are fairly mature!
  2. Most of these individuals have years, if not decades of experience in the dog sport competition world. Most hold titles in multiple dog sports.
  3. They are dog aficionados! Or Junky if you prefer. If there is a dog book, movie, conference, workshop, talk, well they will be there. Always on the curve to learn more and be current. Curious and always exploring. Many are qualified and/or certified in multiple disciplines!
  4. They reach out to other colleagues for feedback, help, or referrals, and have formed a pretty cool network of support.
  5. Honesty and respect run deep with this group. I have never seen a dishonest display with their businesses, clients, or training colleagues. Their businesses are respected in their communities and amongst other trainers.
  6. These individuals have integrity up one side and down the other, and it reflects in their business approach.
  7. These individuals stand firmly on their own two feet, know who they are, they are educated, and at the same time humble when working with animals and their people. They know and understand there is always something to be learned from the animals they are working with.
  8. Great sense of humor and a fairly readable bullshit meter.

Let me introduce the ‘collective awesomeness’ of Positive Based Trainers from Montana -

Melanie LattinGreat Falls

Linda Lyons – Happy Hounds Dog Training – Dillon

Joni Kaiser – mBarking Training – Helena – She also employs Vicki Willert, Bree Caldwell, and Vicki Thacker. A great team!

Adele Delp - Canine Fitness – Helena

Tom Brownlee – Carroll College – Helena

Jewels Willis – The Joyful Animal – Hamilton

Natasha Osborn - Pathfinder Agility – Stevensville

Sarah Spencer Hall - Sit Happens! – Missoula

Helene Tiefenthaler – Paws-a-tively Canine! – Laurel

Camilla McCullough – Billings/Red Lodge

And here is an additional shout out to the Bozeman PetSmart. While not an individually owned business, their trainer and veterinary technician crew have all been clients of mine at one time or another. They have taken that extra step to do more, learn more, and enhance their skills! And in turn pass it along to their clients! Rock on…

And to our two shelters, Lewis and Clark Humane Society, and Heart of the Valley, that have an active behavior and training program, and have been championing positive based training! Thank you!

If feels great to be surrounded by these individuals, I feel grateful! ~ Nancy

… and it unfolds before my eyes!

I love to watch dogs in motion, dogs interacting, dogs with their people. For me it’s like a dance. Sometimes beautifully choreographed, and sometimes like Dante’s Inferno. Nonetheless, a dance.

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I think the first part of the dance that is important is the use of space. Dogs have an amazing sense of space, when to give it and when to take it. Some are subtle, these are the real masters, and these are the dogs I really like to watch. There is always something to learn with these guys. Others are overt, explosive, and dynamic with space. These are the dogs that almost always tend to overwhelm everyone and everything in their environment. Fun to watch, but not a lot to learn. Well, I kind of take that back. When you see one of the overt space users, you learn that you can predict, with a fair amount of accuracy, who they are going to piss off first, and then second, and then third, before the owner gets involved. When I see these types of dogs coming I almost always find myself cringe just a bit, and maybe look sideways out of one eye. I just know what is going to happen in the not to distant future.

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The second part of the dance is timing. And that’s what dogs have in spades. It’s impressive beyond our comprehension.

I am someone who is super sensitive to space and timing. Perhaps that is why dogs and I get each other. Dogs don’t misinterpret my actions, and I don’t misinterpret theirs. If they are clear that they don’t want me in their space, cool, I don’t go any further forward, and visa versa. I guess space and timing are, in a way, equal to respect. Whether I have honed these skills through working with dogs (maybe some), or from playing sports most of my life (probably a bit), or working in the restaurant industry through most of my youth (for sure),  I can read a situation and react accordingly. One of the constant themes in e-mails that I receive from my YouTube channel is ‘… and your timing is kick ass!’.

By the way, because I am sensitive to space and timing, Costco on a Saturday afternoon is my living nightmare.

Which brings me to today! I was a few cars back waiting at a stop light off of Main street. On the corner was a man with a cattle dog. He was chatting away on his phone when I noticed his dog lay down, face away from the man, head lowered, body still, and eye stalk something. The man did not take notice.

Oh, this is fodder for my training soul! Just saying.

So I looked down the sidewalk a ways and here comes a young kid with ear buds in and looking deep in thought, and a jacked up young bully mix of some sort, that was straining on the leash, and staring at the cattle dog it was walking towards. Because this kid was walking in the direction of the corner, the young dog was being asked, unknowingly, to walk into the cattle dogs space, even with the cattle dog setting up on him, and giving him the “STOP DO NOT PASS GO!, STAY OUT OF MY SPACE” body language. Neither of the men were aware of what was about to happen, neither had looked in the direction of their dog that I could tell. I knew exactly what was going to happen. In. Two. More. Steps. This dance was about to hit the fan! The cattle dog got up and lunged, and at the same time the young dog lunged forward and was straining up on his back two legs. This all happened in about 5-7 seconds. Then the men started to pop and jerk and yank their dogs all around, apparently surprised in some way. Honestly, these might be the Costco shoppers that fry my nerves, I should have taken better notice of what they actually looked like! Cell phone guy never stopped talking, and literally dragged his cattle dog around the corner on its side. As the young kid crossed the street, and I was waiting to turn, I heard him say to someone in passing, “I can’t trust my damn dog” Oh. My. God.

As I drove off, I couldn’t help but think how beautiful that dance could have been with experienced handlers. Handlers that understand how to look at their environment and choose wisely. How to keep flow and motion, while also having an understanding of space and timing. How to work as a team with their dog, not set their dog up for failure. Dancing can be enlightening on so many levels.

It is moments like this that make me wonder why dogs even like us as a species.

May we all learn to dance, for our dogs sake! ~ Nancy

when dogs speak their truth, we should listen

Dogs don’t lie.

I’m not sure if they have ‘the ability’ to lie or not, but I have never met a dishonest dog. If there is one species that lives in the moment, truly in the moment, is honest, and speaks his truth, it is the dog.

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I’ll be quite honest, I think I love dogs because they are the least confusing part of my life. There are no ulterior motives, no hidden agendas, no social game playing, no misunderstandings, no lies. Clear and direct with intentions. I can respect that, and perhaps strive to be more like that.

If Story is hungry and paws my knee to let me know, I believe him. He isn’t doing it to fake me out, or make me get up to inconvenience me, it is his truth. “I am hungry, you forgot about my lunch today.”

When Ocean goes out in the back yard with my husband, in the wee hours of morning, and barks at seemingly nothing, it would be super easy to yell at her. “Why are you barking at nothing?” But she isn’t barking at nothing, she is barking at things that scare her. Noises, shadows, and the place where the bear was on the back side of the fence last year. Her fears are real, and her voice is the only way to tell the world, “I am scared”. When she speaks her truth is is loud and noisy, but it is her truth, it is not for me to say “it’s OK, nothing is there”, because for her, those things are real and they are in fact there.

Franny has never lied about anything, in fact her truth can be brutally honest, like it or not. If she killed something, she intended to do it, no apologies. If she intended to scare something, she did. If you come into our home and she wags her tail and throws her head from side to side, she is filled with true joy to see you. Just you. Not what you may have brought for dinner, not what you smell like, not what you may talk about, or your adventures. She is filled with joy by you, your person, your essence, who you truly are. And this truth is palpable, you can feel it deep inside.

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$eeker finds great satisfaction in work and his people. He has a strong personality, and a deep belief in himself. He might just be the poster child for ‘speaking ones truth’.

$eeker is about being himself, he is not concerned with being right.

He doesn’t try to manage our household feelings/emotions. If he pushed something over while playing, well then he pushed something over while playing, he doesn’t feel responsible for our emotional response, that is solely ours to deal with.

He is clear and direct. You cannot misinterpret his desire to snuggle, play, eat, sleep, work, or harass a neighbor dog through the fence.

He is kind, not malicious. But it doesn’t mean he is not intense. He is gentle with the elderly and children.  He plays like a rock star with Story. The only person that exists in any moment in time is the one he is working with or sleeping with.

At times, I think we must be so confusing for our dogs. We say one thing and then do another. We tell our dogs with our body language that things are not going to go well for them, yet our voice is sweet. we get distracted with thoughts about our day, yet our body language says ‘stay with me’. We are walking contradiction to be sure!

Story is beside me right now, deep in some dream. His tail is wagging and he is lightly chirping. Even now I believe he is telling his truth and it makes me smile from deep within.

Perhaps we should all take a lesson from our dogs in ‘speaking our truth’. And practice this lesson. Life would be so less confusing!

Nancy

snowball treibball

Well, it was a treibball afternoon in the yard. My husband and kids love this game with the dogs. While they were playing away, I decided to try some ‘moving action shots’. The light was kind of funky, it was snowing pretty good, and the wind was strong, but I love the motion…

my B & W’s … $eeker makes using a camera fun!

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Spore and Story – they are a great TEAM. And the crappier, windier, and snowier the weather, the happier they both are…?!!!!

 

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Spore and his TREIBBALL SAFETY GLASSES. On snowy days they are kind of handy!

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I love this dog! Story is so powerful. I want to work, on a better light day, capturing his power, how it feels when you are out with him.

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love this collection. $eeker loves this game!

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And now for Mr. Happy Pants!

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Loving our new snow, but now I am off to warm up … Nancy

bits and pieces of my dogs …

OK, I’m still getting use to this fabulous camera my friend gave me.

I’m not use to so many options, but the cool thing is that it is giving me the opportunity to, (1) learn more about photography, (2) take the photos I see in my head but have never been able to capture, (3) spend more time with my super models in the great outdoors!

I haven’t touched up any of the photos, these are as i saw them, and how the camera interpreted what I saw…

Check out the detail on Story’s ear hair, that was so exciting when I came home and downloaded that one from the camera… I finally got the focus I was looking for, and I love true B & W, border collie black and white that is!

And on the final photo, I was down hill a bit, and the sun must have been right in Story’s eyes because i finally was able to capture is honey colored eyes.

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Nancy